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ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!!

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!!!!!

You ever just sit and say, “Enough is Enough?” I promise I have that “Enough” thought everyyyyyyy MONTH! That same “Whoa is me” (Eeyore Attitude) towards the end of every month! SMH!!! But not where others can notice but in my personal and quiet times at home! It’s in those moments where you’re faced with YOURSELF that REALITY truly hits! You can fake the funk for everyone else, but in PRIVATE and BEFORE GOD there AIN’T (yep, I said AIN’T)… Ain’t no hiding NOTHINNNNN! A certain movie will come on, or a post on social media pops up, a song comes on, or you get a phone call and it makes you look at your life and the comparison begins with “Why you should have did this,” “Why you should have done that,” “Why didn’t you reach this goal or why you didn’t try to experience this or that!” It’s like goodness ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!! Live YO LIFE! Embrace YOUR LIFE! Be PROUD of the ACCOMPLISHMENTS YOU have made!!! 

DON’T BE LIKE EEYORE!!!!!! 🙂

Yes, looking over the course of the past months, years or days should help you see how far you have come and help you to realize and understand what you have yet to work on. It should NEVER get you to the point of depression and comparing your life to another’s! TIME OUT FOR THAT! You never know what another person has had to go through to get to where they are! You also never know what facades a person is putting up to make it seem like their life is better than what it actually is. Remember the grass isn’t always greener and that Facebook post isn’t ALWAYS TRUE!!! People can PRETEND well and there are people fighting real battles that we will never see or even know because they don’t make it a point to let the whole world know, which is a good thing. Everything isn’t for everybody!!!

I had to check myself and get myself back in line recently within the past months and year! I notice my BIGGEST ISSUE has come with being SINGLE! Lawddddd!!! I HOPE YOU GALS AND GALS ARE PRAYING FOR MEEEE!!! WHEW JESUS!!! LOL!!! (The struggle isn’t as bad this year because I am more content in where God has me than in previous years) PRAISE GOD!!!! Anyhoo, Being 36 and being single for 10 years (May 2019) is TOUGH! I have to CHECK myself CONSTANTLY! I ALWAYS have to catch myself and say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH because depression will kick in quick! It use to be a point in time that when I was tired of waiting, I took matters in my own hands! NOW WHY IN THE WORLD WOULD I GO AND DO THAT!?!?! Now some of y’all know y’all have done the same thang. LOL (Don’t give me that look) It may not have been in regards to being single but y’all have caught that REBELLIOUS SPIRIT  when God didn’t move in y’all time! Trust me when I tell ya’ll, THERE IS NO HELPING GOD!  Go ahead and try and watch how fast you run straight into DESTRUCTION! He has this all on HIS OWN!!! He doesn’t need you messing up HIS DIVINE PLANS!!!! (Jer. 29:11)

I have tried to move God with that rebellious spirit too many times to know how it felt! Smh! Called up the old male friends in the phone or hit em up on social media with the “HEYYYYY BIG HEAD!” LOL!!! LOL!!! (SOME OF YA’LL KNOW WHAT I’M TALKING ABOUT…WE HAVEN’T ALWAYS BEEN SAVED AND HOLY) Knowing good and well there isn’t going to be any good, holy or pure happenings from those messages being sent! (Listen It’s called Gracefully UNVEILED for a reason…Unveiling the TRUTH to help us all become SET FREE so GOD can get the ULTIMATE GLORY) Hmmph!!!! (Shrugs) Then wonder why you on the altar on Sunday or crying on the edge of your bed worshipping to Shekinah Glory’s “Yes,” cause you done screwed up! I know somebody know where I’m coming from because I know I am not the only one. It doesn’t even have to deal with being single and falling short in your single walk. It can also deal with life in general when you know that God has called you to something and you decided to do your own thing, instead of being patient and waiting on HIS TIMING!!!  

I must admit, I have had plenty of times when I decided to do things my way instead of waiting on God and ended my tail in a HEAP OF TROUBLE. At this stage of my life, ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!! Why SETTLE with doing things MY WAY and getting the same miserable results when I can do things Gods way? In the end, GOD KNOWS WHAT’S BEST. The WAITING may FRUSTRATE us and it may make us CRINGE at times and make us wonder where God is. In those moments of waiting, that’s when we need to seek God even more. 

Enough is Enough!!!!

Why don’t we just trust God from the beginning? 🤷🏾‍♀️ Why don’t we just look to Him to fill the voids in our lives? Them “big heads” just gone fill us up with drama and lustful desires!

At what point are we just gonna say “Okay, Enough is Enough! It’s time to go hard for God and go all in! IT’S ALL OR NOTHING!”

Too many times we sit and wait for others to do for us, what we’re capable of doing for ourselves. We sit idly by expecting everything to alwaysssss go as we see it planned in our minds. We sit back and wait for others to cheer us on or hype us up! What happens when nobody is around to cheer you on? What happens when your plans don’t go as you expected them too? What happens when people turn their backs on you? What happens when God seems silent and you are stuck on what to do or where to go next? 

Enough of sitting by and watching the world pass you by. In John 5, the man at the pool spent YEARSSSSS sitting and waiting for someone to put him in the pool so he could receive his HEALING. He never uttered a word. He never asked for help or anything. (MY PERSONAL ASSUMPTION) I’m sorry, but at some point when you want something sooo bad there isn’t ANYTHING that will stop you from going FORWARD to get it. Granted he eventually received his healing, but how long did it take? Just think if he would have taken a much greater initiative for himself to get what he wanted, he may not have spent many years, miserable, watching everyone receive what he had wanted all along.

Like many of us, we stand around, sit around and complain about our lives and never do anything about it, never seek guidance or wisdom on how to get to where we need to go and we throw a pity party when we don’t have what we need or want. We envy others when God has given us every opportunity to be blessed. We fail to CALL THOSE THINGS THAT BE NOT AS THOUGH THEY WERE (ROM. 4:17). We fail to Speak Life into our situations and we fail to Trust God to do the MIRACULOUS in our lives. More than anything, when it comes to receiving what we need and want, we fail to step out in faith and boldly get what God has ordained for us to have! You can either sit by that POOL and SUFFER or scoot yourself to the edge and get in the best way you can!!! I CHOOSE TO PUSH THROUGH AND RECEIVE WHAT’S FOR ME!!! FORGET SPENDING YEARS IN TURMOIL BECAUSE I FAILED TO ENDURE TO THE END…NOPE…NOT ME!!!! 😉😉

Are you just going to sit there and do nothing or are you going to trust God and make the necessary moves that He has previously ordained for you to make? 

The Woman with the issue of blood had ENOUGHHHHHHH!!! She said, “If I could but TOUCH the hem of HIS garment…Then I will be made WHOLE.” (Mark 9:20-22; Mark 5:25-34; Luke 8:43-48) She was going after her healing. She went through the crowd despite what others had said or could have done to her. She wanted it so bad that she was willing to risk her life to receive from the ONE she knew could provide for her. How bad do you want to be SET FREE? How bad do you want your BREAKTHROUGH? How bad do you want that JOB? It’s time to say “ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!” Go Get What’s Yours! 

Enough of allowing people to use and abuse you. Enough of settling for the MEDIOCRE and living your life as if YOU don’t matter. Time to get out of YOUR OWN way and REALIZE that ENOUGH IS ENOUGH and take your life back and begin to LIVE LIFE!! EMBRACE LIFE with all that you have in YOU!!! 

Enough of feeling Hopeless like the world is out to get you. There’s nothing wrong with starting over; fresh starts are always a plus, but make sure you finish what you first began. Aren’t you tired of quitting yet?!?!?!?!  Haven’t you had enough of wasting time, energy and even money because you failed to finish through?  I have spent so much money on student loans and college because I started then quit, started then quit, then started and quit again. That was all literally just for my Master’s program. Every time I QUIT, the school loans continued to add interest. I can’t even tell you how many thousands or even over 100,000 dollars I still owe on Student Loans because I chose to keep quitting when the going got TOUGH!!!! (Yes, I am shaking my head with you all. LOL) 🙎But when I said ENOUGH is ENOUGH, I was still left with the consequences of my previous actions. When Enough was Enough, I got to the root of why I was quitting and what I was really afraid of. 

STOP!!!! ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!! Get back in the RING and FINISH STRONG!!! I’m in this thang with YOU!!! We going to pray each other through!!! We’re going to FINISH 2019 with a BANG!!! Ya’ll Ready?!?!?! Then Let’s Get it; Let’s Go!!!! 

Steps to Take When You’ve Had Enough!!!! (Yolo’s Version) 

  • Pray, Fast, and Seek God on what changes you need to make and where you need to begin. 
  • Set some REALISTIC GOALS, make a vision board and take ACTION
  • Get YO lazy butt off the couch! Change won’t happen by just sitting there. 
  • Block that man/woman that’s not helping to push you closer to your DESTINY. 
  • Shut up complaining about your life. If you’re not going to do anything about it, nobody wants to hear you whining about it. 
  • Invest in YOURSELF!!!!!!!!
  • Stopping watching every TV show that’s full of drama and pick up a book or something so you can learn a new craft. Your life already full of drama! (Yep, I said it. You’re Messy!!!
  • Start believing in YOURSELF again!!! If you don’t then don’t expect anybody else to. 
  • Release all of that hate and unforgiveness out of your heart. The only person that is suffering from that blockage and them blessings are YOU!!!! 
  • Quit looking to others to validate YOU!!! You better start loving and validating yourself. 
  • Stop seeking counsel from folks who haven’t an ounce of wisdom, experience or spiritual insight on what you are going through. You are going to get enough of letting everyone speaking into you. Everyone ain’t right! 
  • Remember everyone is NOT YOUR FRIEND!!!! Some people would rather PREY on you than PRAY for YOU!!! You better know the difference!!!
  • Always put GOD FIRST and TRUST that as you GO HARD after HIM that HE WILL make sure that YOU are PROPERLY ALIGNED where you are supposed to be. 

***STOP TRYING TO MEET EVERYONE’S EXPECTATIONS FOR YOUUUUUU!!!!! Half of them don’t even have expectations for their own LIVESSSS!!!! Sorry, but tell them to kick rocks and nicely tell them to mind their own business!!!! (Shrugs) This YEAR, 2019, is about LIVING for YOU!!!! Living for YOU and GOD! If God is pleased then what others think and what they expect concerning your life doesn’t matter at all! (BIG SMILES)*** 

When you’ve had enough you will make the necessary changes, until then don’t complain about the life that you are living. You can’t expect change when you aren’t willing to get rid of the old you (2 Cor. 5:17-22). You can’t expect change or a transformation if you’re not willing to take action to move in another direction. 

***ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! GO HARD OR GO HOME!!! PERIOD…POINT…BLANK!***


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THE COST OF NOT DREAMING!!!!

💞The Cost of Not Dreaming!!! 💞

As younger children, there’s this image, passion and/or DREAM imbedded in our hearts and minds of what life should consist of. Most young girls picture their marriage, Cinderella fairytale-happy ending. Young boys often dream of a career in sports. Children can dream about so much. The faith and passion that some have when they are younger is MATCHLESS!!!

But what happens when that child doesn’t dream? What happens when that child is forced to stop dreaming?

For myself, I wasn’t dreamer! I never had a strong desire for the fairy-tale, prince charming, riding on a white horse dream. 🤷🏾‍♀️ I also never really dreamed for more! I didn’t see a purpose! The life I was given is all I felt I could ever have!

Why? I don’t know! Maybe it was because I never saw the reality of the white picket fence, perfect family man that loves a woman type of image, that was portrayed on TV. Only thing that was embedded around me was ABUSE and SETTLING! So, I often wondered what was the purpose behind dreaming when I never saw anyone around me with anything that was worth dreaming about? I wasn’t expected to dream! I wasn’t inspired or even encouraged to dream! To me, dreaming wasn’t real and my LIFE, in the present moment, now that was REAL! Hurt, pain and lack of worth, that was real to me. It’s all I knew and all that I saw.

As a result of me not dreaming, I watched myself settle for any and everything that came my way. Honestly put, SETTLING, is one cost of not dreaming. Settling is accepting less than you are worth and what God has called for you to have due to fear, doubt and unbelief.

You settle when you feel you are not worthy of more. Settling stops you from having standards and wanting more for your life. It blocks you from seeing beyond the present and dreaming for more. Settling stops you from having an expectation of GREATER for your LIFE.

I settled a lot growing up! As I got older, I didn’t know what I really wanted for my life. I never prayed for the things that I really wanted because I didn’t think that I would or could receive the things that I really desired. I never thought that I was worthy of having anything beyond my wildest dreams. I never thought that I was special enough to grab hold of the things that I use to write about in my journals.

I settled in my relationships. Mannnn, did I settle in my relationships or as they say now, situation-ships!!!! I ended up giving parts of myself to men who knew they didn’t or wouldn’t have my best interest at heart or who said everything that I wanted to hear, without the actions backing anything up. I formed SEXUAL SOUL TIES with men that I am just now starting to see broken off of me! IF YOU THINK SOUL TIES ARE NOT REAL THEN YOU ARE SADLY MISTAKENNNNN!!!!! I put myself last, I skipped bible study sessions and corporate prayer over the years. I missed pertinent opportunities to spend with family because I settled for the temporary fix! Instead of filling the voids because I failed to dream, with those things that God had right in front of my face, I went for the temporal fix that I thought could help my inner self.

Within my family, I took on issues that weren’t mine because I felt an obligation to some of my family. I felt I didn’t deserve the real and genuine love and respect from some of my family. I accepted whatever and believed whatever they said about me. I was told I was gonna be gay, never amount to nothing and end up just like others who they felt weren’t WORTH nothing. I received and believed this stance on my life because I never dreamed beyond more.

I lost my voice and I lost sight of who I was because the expectations of who I was and who I needed to be was charged based on other’s acceptance and lack thereof of me. I allowed abuse in various forms run rampant in my life and didn’t even care. I simply accepted what I accepted and that was that.

Before 2005, I would work at jobs for less than a week because I refused to push for more in my life. I was lazy and unmotivated. I allowed my credit to get OUT OF CONTROL!!! JESUSSSSS! I allowed my health to deteriorate. I didn’t care.

At 35, I just started dreaming in the past few years. Dreaming for me now is aligned with God and expecting HIS BEST!!!! 🙇🏾‍♀️🙌🏾💞 I take my desires to God now. YESSS LORD!!!!

The COST of NOT DREAMING, cost me decades of my life! Now I am able to dream, have desires and seek God. Knowing that He’s WORTHY, helps me to realize that in HIS EYES I’m WORTH IT!!!!

NOT DREAMING IS A PROBLEM!!!

Submit your dreams to God and allow Him to manifest them more in your LIFE!!! If you’ve never really dreamed of anything greater for your life before, NOW is a great time to start. It may seem uncomfortable at first, but as YOU and GOD (POWER TEAM) 😉 align TOGETHER, then AMAZING things will and can happen!!!

As you begin to dream and vocalize (SPEAK THOSE THINGS THAT BE NOT AS THOUGH THEY WERE… ROMANS. 4:17) your desires to God, how about writing them down, doing vision boards/collages, and most importantly praying over them.

God said that HE WILL give YOU the DESIRES of your heart as you TRUST HIM!!!! (Psalm 37:4)

🌟WHERE YOUR TRUST LIES THERE ALSO LIES YOUR DESIRES AND DREAMS!!!🌟

DREAM OUT LOUD!!!!

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NEW BEGINNINGS

NEW BEGINNINGS!!!!!!

Everyone always thinks that “New Beginnings” are always peaches and cream! 😏 For me that has not always been the CASE!!! 🤷🏾‍♀️ I always had this picture in my mind of what NEW BEGINNINGS and TRANSITIONS would look like or even feel like.

LISTEN!!!!! 🤦🏾‍♀️My move to Charlotte in September 2018 proved to me that starting something new and beginning an entire new life and having a new beginning overall, can be fun and exciting, BUT it also comes with its very unique challenges!!! WHEW if y’all only KNEW!!! (rips hair out emoji 😂)

The excitement, the joy, and the endless hopes and possibilities of what’s to come kept me in the race for a good MONTH before I was OVER ITTTTTT!!! There were days I wanted to scream, shout and throw in the towel (ask my close friends and family 🤣), but the reality of what God had set out for me to do kept my head in the game and ready to take on any challenge that came my way.

I love going into every new season of my life with my heart proudly focused on Isaiah 43: 18:

“ DO NOT REMEMBER THE FORMER THINGS, OR PONDER ON THE THINGS OF THE PAST. LISTEN CAREFULLY, I AM ABOUT TO DO A NEW THING…”

The thing with this scripture, if you’re in a bad space, is that you will read it in the wrong context and truly question God. Ask me how I know?!?!?! That was me many of times; especially when dealing with people and dealing with things that hurt me as I transitioned into a new season of my life. I always questioned and wanted to know “why I had to forget about the things that hurt me in order to move into the NEW.”  I had many conversations with God on “how HE expected me to put everything behind me and forget that negative things even happened.”  We love focusing on the negative, but always seem hard at times to focus on the positive that can even come from a negative situation.

Let me tell YOU, God got me together EVERY TIME!!! In order to fully move into YOUR NEW, you have to realize and understand what God has brought you through so that you can KNOW and WITNESS Him moving in your life in GREATER measures into this NEW POSITIONING and BEGINNING.

If we always focus on the THEN and never focus on GOD, who CAN and WILL change the path to our destiny, we will never advance to greater depths with HIM.

God isn’t expecting you to literally forget everything that you have been through or even expect you to pretend like none of it has ever happened. What HE does want for us is the opportunity to hold onto HIS UNCHANGING LOVE and allow HIM the opportunity to make THINGS NEW IN YOUR LIFE!! HE wants to be able to grab you by the hand and walk closely with you, while he expresses how HE will do things GREATER AND BETTER (Ephesians 3:20…CHECK IT OUT) than you could ever perceive in your wildest DREAMS!!

If we always harbor on the things that hurt us or the things that kept us down we will never cross that finish line of FREEDOM!!!!

Moving to Charlotte, for me, in the beginning came with every good, bad and ugly moments! I found out who was truly here for me and who truly had my best interest at heart. I lost some friendships (some I noticed since day one of letting everyone know I was moving) and relationships in my family were destroyed (more than one). You gain some and you lose some, but that’s life! I’m STRONGER because of it!!!

Some of my friendships and family relationships GREW STRONGER and when I tell you they have HELD ME DOWN!!!! 💃🏾My HEART and LOVE goes out to all of them!!! They’re the real MVP’s in my life!!!

       My work family has been PHENOMENAL!!! So many of them have taken me under their wing and they make sure I am 💯 I laugh and act a complete fool with them as if I’ve known them for years!!! They accept me for me and those who know me on a personal level know I can have my up and down days!!! 😂 Being introverted and extroverted can have its moments! Days you want to be bothered and some days you don’t! They get a combo of both of those moments!!! LOL!!!

All in all this NEW BEGINNING for me has been quite unique!!! I didn’t have any idea how I was going to make it through! I didn’t have a clue on what I was doing or even getting myself into when I made the decision to move to Charlotte. Heck, I didn’t want to come for real! I thought I would be completely lost without my granny being right here with me!!! Being 35, I still need and cry for my granny and mom when I am not feeling well or when I want to call it quits. Neither one of them gave into my cries this time!!! LOL!! They made me suck every tear up and keep my tail in Charlotte.

I took a major leap of FAITH. I call it my PETER WALKING ON WATER experience!!! 💞🙇🏾‍♀️ The moment I took my eyes off of Jesus, I truly began to sink, but it didn’t take me long to get my focus right back on HIM, with the amazing help from my SUPER STRONG SUPPORT SYSTEM!!!! You gone need that when you begin anything new!!! (My opinion).

If you really pay attention to the foundation and daily grind of your life, you will notice that God prepares you for things before you even get to experience it. This NEW SEASON or BEGINNING for my life, I know for a fact God had prepared me for it way before I even thought about it or stepped into it. That’s why it’s so important for me to stay in tune and alignment with God so that when things really hit, I won’t be caught off guard or even scared and stuck on what the next move is!!!

Although some things have been a challenge, majority of my time spent in Charlotte and me embracing this NEW MOMENT has been AMAZING!!! I am at total peace with my life right now and I am glowing on the inside and outside because I know that God has orchestrated things in a way that leaves me speechless and I’m expecting HIM to move in an even GREATER WAY!!!! #STRESSFREE

🌟TRUST GOD THROUGH THE PROCESS AND KNOW THAT YOUR NEW BEGINNING IS JUST ANOTHER OPPORTUNITY FOR GOD TO SHOW HIS GLORY IN YOUR LIFE!!! EMBRACE IT AND ENJOY EVERY MOMENT OF IT!🌟

PEACE AND BLESSINGS!!! 😉😘